cyborgmemoirs:

o right, did i tell the class how I got suspended from Facebook for not using my “real name”??? (pretty sure I did but here i go again)

i am sure there will be social consequences down the line (anticipating the criminalization of non-participation in big social networks/data-mining/total 1:1 identity “services” requiring state-issue IDs), but for right now i feel HELL OF peaceful and happy

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2184658/Is-joining-Facebook-sign-youre-psychopath-Some-employers-psychologists-say-suspicious.html

I might finally be out of the anger stage of grief… into bargaining, where I’m like “If I work really hard and make amazing shit that makes people love me…. um, something great?” (I dunno, it’s not rational)

But also angry, because fuck you, I have worth because I exist.

niaking:

niaking:

niaking:

niaking:

niaking:

I am excited to confirm that Ryka Aoki, Magnoliah Black, and Virgie Tovar will all be performing at the book launch party! The party is taking place September 26th from 7-9 pm at Show and Tell in Oakland. Mark your calendars!

Magnoliah Black (first photo) is a New Orleans native and Bay Area transplant. She is a storyteller who promotes body love and diversity through the mediums of vocal performance, dance, burlesque, writing and public speaking. She performs both as a soloist and as a core member of the internationally-traveled and award-winning Rubenesque Burlesque.

Virgie Tovar, MA, (second photo) is an author, activist and one of the nation’s leading experts and lecturers on fat discrimination and body image. She is the editor of Hot & Heavy: Fierce Fat Girls on Life, Love & Fashion (Seal Press, November 2012). Virgie has been featured by MTV, Al Jazeera, the San Francisco Chronicle, NPR, Huffington Post, Bust Magazine, Jezebel, and XOJane, as well as on Women’s Entertainment Television and The Ricki Lake Show.

Ryka Aoki (third photo) has been honored by the California State Senate for “extraordinary commitment to free speech and artistic expression, as well as the visibility and well-being of transgender people.” Her collection Seasonal Velocities was a finalist for a 2013 Lambda Literary Award in Transgender Nonfiction. Ryka also appears in Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation, Transfeminist Perspectives, and The Collection. Her novel, He Mele a Hilo, was be published by Topside Signature Press in spring 2014. She is a professor of English at Santa Monica College and of Gender Studies at Antioch University.

Nia King, Jessica Glennon-Zukoff and Terra Mikalson have spent the last year editing a one-of-a-kind collection of interviews titled Queer and Trans Artists of Color: Stories of Some of Our Lives. Come out to our book launch to EAT GOOD FOOD, SEE AMAZING PERFORMANCES, and BUY THE BOOK!

Entrance to the party is $10-20* (which includes dinner) with no one turned away for lack of funds. Copies of the book are $10-$20 sliding scale. Please BRING CASH.

Space is limited. Seating is first come, first serve, so get there early!

The venue is wheel-chair accessible. We are also trying to keep the space as low-scent as possible. Please do NOT come to the space with smoke (cigarette, weed, wood, or incense) or chlorine on your person or clothes. Please do NOT wear perfume or cologne to this event. If possible, also avoid scented shampoos, conditioners, deodorants, laundry detergent, fabric softener, etc. before coming. More info on how to be fragrance-free and support folks with chemical sensitivities here: http://www.brownstargirl.org/blog/
fragrance-free-femme-of-colour-realness-draft-15

*Artists featured in the book get in free!

This event will also feature catering by the incomparable Amirah Mizrahi, who will be cooking delicious Palestinian food and also vegan brownies.

Reblogging again because I want you to be there.

Reblogging again because you will be so sad if you miss this.

Currently working on finding ASL interpretation for this event. If you know any Bay Area interpreters that might be available, please hit me up at niaking@zoho.com.

Working on a new zine. It’s going to be a struggle since it’s science fiction :/ I need to really focus because I like the idea a lot and I want to follow through.


Helen Williams on the cover of Ebony Magazine, January 1959 

Helen Williams on the cover of Ebony Magazine, January 1959 

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All the black women who went to bed early one night and didn’t get out for months or years.

I hate that I am validated by street harassment :( I totally get it though. After years of being desexualized I’m glad to be treated as a sexual being (er, object) by someone.

Ughhhhhhh. I’m in this self-imposed desexual/asexual zone and not really into it. I have so much baggage to deal with before I’m dateable, which is a really fucked up thing to say, and I think it’s not really true… in a perfect world it wouldn’t be, but this world is imperfect, and often jampacked with bullshit, sooooo…

I’m still willing to go out on dates with cis men who are well below par. Not men who harass me, but men who, while not jampacked with bullshit, still have streaks of it across their face. Point being- as long as I’m willing to date shitty cis men, something is clearly wrong with me because there is nothing new and novel about the shit that cis men have to offer me. I fully understand it, and I would like to be at a place where I could say ‘no thank you’ to shit, at least shit that I see coming, at least shit that is not interesting and entertaining.

LOL. This would make an amazing online dating profile.

Another thing I’m very frustrated about is that I’m very centered on what type of man I’m not looking for, hoping like hell to find that needle in the haystack so I can avoid dating a woman. And that is sooooo fucked up.

I read an FB thread where people debated unlearning sexual attraction, and one person seemed to get pretty mad about it, I think because of the pray the gay away implications. But how I took it, at least how it’s applicable to my life, is that I was conditioned to be attracted (attracted as in “oh, I should pay attention to him, should laugh at his unfunny bullshit, follow him to his car, etc) to white dudes of varying creep level and nasty factor and I’m having to unlearn that shit.

Also, what I need to relearn is my attraction to women and other genders.

When I was in middle school we were picking out the cutest people in the year book. I picked out someone from their class, this boy I didn’t know. They laughed at me, and said, “THAT’S NOT A BOY!!! THAT’S A GIRL!” Whatever, she was cute. I quietly kept up that crush on her until we graduated, but it was more of a fascination. I thought she was really cooooooool.

yellowxperil:

oopcdaisy:

yellowxperil:

if you’re a white person dating a poc and you don’t say anything when your family says something racist about them you don’t deserve them

shape up

Da fuck is a poc?

pear or carrot. if you’re a white person dating a pear or carrot

I seriously saw a white man reply to the question “what does iaopoc stand for” with “It means ‘I and other people of color.’” Now I can tell his dumb ass it means “I and other pears or carrots.”

She slashed his unheated waterbed. She bashed his French press with one of the car parts laying on the kitchen table, the car parts that left the entire house smelling like dirt and oil.

She set fire to the house, and let it burn.

The burning of the house wasn’t for revenge, but to make the people of the town say

"How could this happen here?" Gasp choke "If this can happen here it can happen anywhere!"

To make the people of the town say “we thought we were safe here” so that maybe someone would think of the hypocrisy and denial rooted in those statements.

yellowxperil:

yellowxperil:

mothkult:

yellowxperil:

mothkult:

yellowxperil:

i need to stop seeing this shit come up on my dashboard. stop mimicking “black men” when you invoke predatory sexuality. recognize it and stop doing it. recognize the part youre playing in perpetuating the deadly myth of the black male rapist.

and read this: "Rape, Racism and the Myth of the Black Rapist" from Angela Davis’s Women Race and Class

I understand what is said here, and agree. But I think the pictures/gifs used to demonstrate were a bad choice, only one directly points to the “Predator” being a black man. Just an observation.

find out what aave is and come back

Point made, I was just giving an observation. I agree with your post 100% , but I think there are better examples

absolutely there are. but i made this post as a direct response to seeing the first two gifsets go viral around tumblr’s feminist community. i added the third screenshot to further contextualize my point. a lot of feminists i followm reblogged the hell out of the first two, obviously not seeing that they were using racism to fight sexism.

i also still think you’re failing to see that these are GOOD examples. because in neo-liberal media, overt racism isn’t as pervasive as “subtle” racism. so it’s exactly those first two posts that ppl need to be more aware of. because they might not be trained to see the racism in those situations where it’s not blatant. and that’s exactly what happened when those posts went viral.

this post is going around again a little bit so i want to add a thought process i’ve developed since this post’s conception. if you don’t actually think this is a thing (like some of you reblogging this to say black ppl are reaching bc you assumed op, i, was black) keep a notepad with you for a few weeks and write down every time a non-black person slips into aave (in speech, in a text message, on facebook, whatever.) then next to that, write down why. i’ve done this, and the second column never strayed from three overlapping categories:

1) jocose sexual predation (as in the examples above. real life examples: “AY GIRL, lemme holla atcha!” “lemme get cho numba.. ay yo where you goin’?” on someone’s selfie/profile pic: “DAYUM.” “damn ma, you is fiiiiine” “DAT ASS”) verbally, this is, without fail, accompanied by a faked very deep voice. wonder why?

2) jocose aggression/intimidation (real life examples: “you can’t FUCK WIT ME”, “what chu gon do huh? what chu gon do??” “YO FUCK DAT NOISE I AIN’T ABOUT DAT, FUCK DA HATERZ” “WHO IS YOU” “YO ima STOMP that FOOL!” "im finna snatch this bitch weave") these are often accompanied by a deep voice as well, though tonally different

3) being loud [“sassy” also] (real life examples: “MUH FUCKIN HOMIE” “FO REAL DO” “ooo girrrlll!!!” )

so we slip into aave when we’re putting on sexual predation, aggression/intimidation, and loudness. what does that tell us about stereotypes of black americans?

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youngblackandvegan:

the-goddamazon:

youngblackandvegan:

this is the screenshot for the anaconda parody
it rubs me the wrong way
i can’t find the link off facebook
but if you’ve seen it let me know what your thoughts are

Here’s the link to the YouTube video.
A white man made this.
And basically it took the video that divorced Black women’s bodies from the white gaze and put it right back in the white gaze. Not to mention the fetishizing and attack on Nicki Minaj for having a “fake ass”.
I wonder if people know how ass shots actually work.
This video was gross and insulting and just…ugh.

thank you for providing the link. the fact that it was made by a white man only confirms all of my issues with this video. through out the video, there are white men twisting their faces in disgust at her body. that, plus literally calling her a “whore” makes this video unbearable. i’m not here to debate what is or isn’t real on nicki or anything like that, because none of that matters. but making a video calling her dumb and essentially calling her worthless is beyond offensive.
thanks for your thoughts. i thought it was just me
until i found out some white dude made this


lol, white men pretending like they’re disgusted by Nikki Minaj’s body.  they’re so fucked up by her they really can’t begin to comprehend why they hate her

youngblackandvegan:

the-goddamazon:

youngblackandvegan:

this is the screenshot for the anaconda parody

it rubs me the wrong way

i can’t find the link off facebook

but if you’ve seen it let me know what your thoughts are

Here’s the link to the YouTube video.

A white man made this.

And basically it took the video that divorced Black women’s bodies from the white gaze and put it right back in the white gaze. Not to mention the fetishizing and attack on Nicki Minaj for having a “fake ass”.

I wonder if people know how ass shots actually work.

This video was gross and insulting and just…ugh.

thank you for providing the link. the fact that it was made by a white man only confirms all of my issues with this video. through out the video, there are white men twisting their faces in disgust at her body. that, plus literally calling her a “whore” makes this video unbearable. i’m not here to debate what is or isn’t real on nicki or anything like that, because none of that matters. but making a video calling her dumb and essentially calling her worthless is beyond offensive.

thanks for your thoughts. i thought it was just me

until i found out some white dude made this

lol, white men pretending like they’re disgusted by Nikki Minaj’s body. they’re so fucked up by her they really can’t begin to comprehend why they hate her

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il-tenore-regina:

brandx:

Native Filmmakers Shoot Dystopian Drama on Pine Ridge Reservation

It’s 2085 on Pine Ridge. The reservation has been quarantined and borders guarded by the military for 30 years. Sparked by the ramifications of the Keystone XL pipeline, the war between the government and the insurgency lasted for eight years and resulted in the dystopian setting that provides the background for "The People," the inaugural project from Indigene Studios.

Based out of Pine Ridge Indian Reservation, Indigene Studios was co-founded in April 2014 by Willi White, Oglala Lakota, and Angel White Eyes, Oglala Lakota and Ojibwa.
“This is our way of giving back to our communities but also expressing ourselves,” White said. “Non-Natives always come here and sell the same narrative to the mainstream media. We want to change that narrative and give a voice to the stories that are already here.”
Click-through to their IndieGoGo campaign!via Indian Country Today Media Network

Give. It. To. Me. 


 Cool, they met their goal!

il-tenore-regina:

brandx:

Native Filmmakers Shoot Dystopian Drama on Pine Ridge Reservation

It’s 2085 on Pine Ridge. The reservation has been quarantined and borders guarded by the military for 30 years. Sparked by the ramifications of the Keystone XL pipeline, the war between the government and the insurgency lasted for eight years and resulted in the dystopian setting that provides the background for "The People," the inaugural project from Indigene Studios.

Based out of Pine Ridge Indian Reservation, Indigene Studios was co-founded in April 2014 by Willi White, Oglala Lakota, and Angel White Eyes, Oglala Lakota and Ojibwa.

“This is our way of giving back to our communities but also expressing ourselves,” White said. “Non-Natives always come here and sell the same narrative to the mainstream media. We want to change that narrative and give a voice to the stories that are already here.”

Click-through to their IndieGoGo campaign!
via Indian Country Today Media Network

Give. It. To. Me. 

Cool, they met their goal!

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rebelliousmom:

manhatingfeminist:

More people are concerned with why women stay in abusive relationships than why men are abusing women

real talk

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Sleeping at night is for assholes. Also people who have things to do during the day. Also people who aren’t people-avoidant; people who enjoy being people-adjacent.

Night is a good time to be alone. Also a good time to lay in bed convalescing navel gazing watching the paint on the grass dry.